Common Reveals He Was Molested In New Book In Hopes Of Helping Other Victims
Grammy and Academy Award winning artist Common released a book today (Tuesday), which shares some deep secrets from his past. The hip hop artist shared that he was molested by a family member and he hopes his experience help other victims.
People report:
In the book he shares that it wasn’t until two years ago, while workshopping a scene with actress and friend Laura Dern, that a haunting memory of being molested as a kid suddenly came back to him.
The actors were preparing for their roles in The Tale. “One day, while talking through the script with Laura, old memories surprisingly flashed in my mind,” he writes. “I caught my breath and just kept looping the memories over and over, like rewinding an old VHS tape…I said ‘Laura, I think I was abused.’”
Common goes on to share what he now recalls happening to him when he was just 9 or 10 years old while growing up in Chicago. “I was excited for a road trip I was about to take with my family. My mother; my godmother, Barbara; her son and my godbrother Skeet; and his relative, who I’ll call Brandon…”
Arriving at his Aunt’s house in Cleveland, Common says he and Brandon were made to share a bed together one night of the trip.
“At some point I felt Brandon’s hand on me,” he writes. “I pushed him away. I don’t remember saying a whole lot besides ‘No, no, no.’”
But Common says his abuser would not stop: “He kept saying ‘It’s okay, It’s okay,’ as he pulled down my shorts and molested me. After he stopped he kept asking me to perform it on him. I kept repeating ‘No’ and pushing him away,” the rapper writes. “I felt a deep and sudden shame for what happened.”
To cope, the “Glory” singer believes he “buried” the painful memories.
“I just pushed the whole thing out of my head,” he writes. “Maybe it’s a matter of survival—Even now, two years after that flash resurgence of memories, as I’m writing, I’m still working through all of this in myself and with my therapist.”
Common said that he has never spoken to the accuse about the one-time incident but he’s forgiven him. “I want to be a person that breaks the cycle of violence,” he writes. “This is love in action and I intend to practice it.”
Common’s memoir “Let Love Have the Last Word” is now available on Amazon and other book publishing outlets. And now you’re officially in the know!